The "L" Word
Lisa Marie Platske, CEO of Upside Thinking, Inc. 

John Maxwell's defines leadership as "influence...nothing more, nothing less". In organizations big and small, non-profits, and entrepreneurial ventures, people follow the person first, and then their plan. The definition doesn't differentiate how the individual uses his/her influence but that they have influence at all.

Yesterday, I opened the paper to a headline of "Road to Recovery?" with the media challenging Obama to use his influence and make a difference. Leadership is a blend of many qualities and the trick is to develop the winning combination of characteristics that increase your sphere of influence. Whether you agree with Obama's policies or not, the majority of American's believed he had the qualities to effect change in the country.

Kouses and Posner's research consistently demonstrates four characteristics that every leader possesses. And, I believe that the element that differentiates an extraordinary leader from one who simply gets the job done is Love. As I said last month, love and fear are the most powerful emotions known to mankind. They both emit energy and whether you realize it or not, every word you say, every decision you make is either made out of love or fear. Extraordinary leaders know that love trumps fear every time.

So, how can you learn to lead with the "L" word?

• Discern your top 10 values. Are words like service, love, and kindness on your list? Remember, not all values are created equal.

• Choose to be kind before choosing to be right. Need I say more?

• Understand that how something gets accomplished is as important as what gets done. The ends never justify the means.

• Ask others whether your brand has value. Whether you envision yourself on the catwalk or not, you are always on camera creating a signature style. What is yours worth?

May you experience the unlimited possibilities and joy that come from choosing Love!