Runaway Bride,
Runaway Groom
By Sally Manglicmot

Do you have "cold feet", or are you suffering from something deeper at heart? "Cold feet" is an expression used to describe nervous brides and grooms. The deeper question might be, "what are you nervous about?" 

Here are some questions that, if answered "yes", may be reason to take a pause in your wedding plans:

1. You might be overwhelmed with the tasks of planning your wedding--so many decisions to make! This is normal. Does the thought of making “joint decisions” after you are married make you feel uneasy?

2. The two of you enjoy going to “happy hour” together, dining out with friends, and going to a ball game. However, you always take the role of “designated driver”. Do you secretly believe that he/her may have a “dependency problem”?

3. It’s been two or more weeks since you said “I do”.  Are you experiencing occasions of doubt, periods of depression, or lack of energy? Is it possible that your body is sending you signals?

4. You talk about everything under the sun (favorite movie, dish, book sport), but shy away from topics like financial investments, joint bank accounts, children, family social events, careers and religion?

5. Do you suspect unfaithfulness?

6. Do you have regrets for saying “I do” too soon?

Answering yes to one or more of these questions doesn’t mean it’s time to pull the plug. Simply note to take steps to remedy the problem. If he or she really loves you, then there is nothing wrong with extending the wedding date.